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The danger is this: we learn a crucially important, life-changing lesson, and then forget all about it and move on with our lives.
Any one of us could fall into that trap this year. Like me, you’ve probably had some realizations about your life during this difficult time. Epiphanies about changes you want to make, or simple truths that you want to take forward even once things return to “normal.”
But the integration of these lessons and truths into our lives going forward is no guarantee. In fact, for most people, it’s much more likely that nothing will change.
Think of that, we were just forced into a giant reset, the likes of which we may never have again in our lifetimes. And yet, most people will go back to living the same lives they were before once the daily stresses, invites, and activities return.
We simply cannot let this happen.
So what can we do? Well, the first step is consciously taking stock of what those lessons are, and codifying them so we don’t forget them.
In this week’s video I reveal 6 of the unexpected lessons I’ve learned in the last 3 months…
Come see if any of mine are the same as yours. And, in the process, write down what yours are. I can’t say this enough: do not move on from this moment in time without bottling the lessons and taking them with you, or all of this pain and struggle will have been for nothing.
I’m committed to my growth and yours. Since these last 3 months have been so tough on us, why don’t we turn the tables and make them work for us now?
P.S. If you’ve been spending a lot of time beating yourself up recently and it’s exhausting you, lesson #6 in this video is for you. We’ve got this, friend.
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some places have opened up other places
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are beginning to open up and I think
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this is an important juncture because
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I’ve had like you probably many
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realizations during this time what I’m
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really afraid of is that those
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realizations will count for nothing if
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we just mindlessly go into the next
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chapter of our lives without finding a
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way to cement them so I thought I’d talk
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about some of my realizations and as I
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do it might evoke some of your
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realizations in a conscious way that you
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can record so that you don’t let them go
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Winston Churchill once said men
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occasionally stumble over the truth but
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most pick themselves up and carry on as
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if nothing happened let’s not be those
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people number one chores are more than
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bores I have I suppose since an early
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age even when I was coming up from
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nothing had this entrepreneurial
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philosophy in my head that the moment
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you can delegate things so that you can
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continue to focus on the areas where
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you’re most effective and most capable
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of growing what you’re doing you should
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whilst that’s true and some people have
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the tendency to under delegate they at
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certain points in their life hold on to
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too many activities and then they never
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grow I think I have fallen into the trap
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of over delegating to the point where
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there are things in my life that I
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wasn’t doing anymore that meant I lost
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connection to my own life i delegated
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cooking to post mates and ovaries for
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example and doing more cooking during
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this time has made me feel more
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connected to food to life added more
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variety to my life it’s just been a good
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thing not everything should be delegated
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all the time video games I realized I
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like playing video games I got addicted
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to Zelda breath of the wild during
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lockdown I haven’t played video games
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since I was a teenager I gave it up for
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like 15 years because I was just like
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this is not there’s no utility to this
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what’s the purpose what is it serving
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but playing them again I’m just like why
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does everything need to serve a purpose
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this is silly not everything has to have
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a recent iams you could just do
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something because it’s fun we don’t know
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I don’t want to be one of those people
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that everything I do has to be
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contributing towards some goal in my
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life I was still doing too many things
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because of FOMO fear of missing out I
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think that is interesting that many of
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us including myself have felt far more
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comfortable slowing down during this
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time because we know everyone else is
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too if we were being forced to slow down
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but no one else was likely we’d feel
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very insecure about it I think I would
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that suggests to me that there are still
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too many things that I’m doing not
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because I want to but simply because
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other people are doing them and I feel
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like oh god I should I want to start
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making a far greater distinction between
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things that genuinely add value to my
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life and things that I’m only doing
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because other people are going at that
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pace I put too much enjoyment off you
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know there are things I’ve wanted to do
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for a long time I wanted to go and
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travel India for a long time didn’t do
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it because I was always her work the
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next opportunity the next thing and now
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I can’t do it this year you know that
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really should be a metaphor for life I
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don’t want to go back to putting off
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things that I really want to do for
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enjoyment because there’s another
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opportunity or there’s another work
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I wrote down miracle days are overrated
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and what I meant by that is during
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I got done a project that I’d been
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putting off that was a writing project
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that I decided to write 500 words a day
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and in a month and a half I got it done
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this was something I’ve been putting off
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for a long time it got done because of
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consistency not because of a miracle day
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a miracle day would be me saying I’m
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gonna write 10,000 words in a day and
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get this thing done it’s not realistic I
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rarely ever have miracle days but I can
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reliably achieve things in my life in a
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relaxed way if I just focus on
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consistency lastly I wrote down I’m
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still too hard on myself for all I coach
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people on confidence and kindness and
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self compassion I still spend too much
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time beating myself up for not living up
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to an ideal a standard that I’ve set for
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and the people around me have to spend
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way too many calories telling me
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constantly to not be so hard on myself
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so I still have a lot to learn there and
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I realized that I cannot take for
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granted that I am being kind and
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compassionate towards myself is
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something that I have to practice daily
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so those are some things that I learned
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what did you learn during this time we
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have to hold on to those things it’s
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very very important or whatever
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realizations and epiphanies we’ve had I
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promise you we will lose them they will
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become not even a memory a lesson we
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learned that we simply forgot by the way
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for those of you who want to continue
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your learning with me and especially for
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those of you who are looking at this
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year and saying I need to re-evaluate
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what’s important to me right now what my
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values are and where I’m going and I
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want to process for that I have my at
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home retreat that many people are trying
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right now and they’re going through the
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entire retreat experience that I
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normally do live but from home and
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getting tremendous results with it I
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think this is an incredible year for
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growth and for those of you that want to
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invest in your growth this is an amazing
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way to do it it’s the most immersive
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deep process I have for doing that so
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I’ll leave a link here check it out and
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as always I will see you in next week’s
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